Sarah Slater's Second Husband

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(03-31-2016 06:59 PM)Susan Higginbotham Wrote:  No one's putting anyone's name on anyone else's stone or rewriting history. Find-A-Grave is simply a way of recording who is buried where, and their relationships with others. Many people find that information of value; if you don't, so be it. I see no point in whitewashing Sarah's second marriage from history just because the couple may not have stayed together, no more than I see the point of ignoring Sarah's first marriage, or Louis Weichmann's failed marriage, or any of the many other failed marriages in history. (Incidentally, Jacob doesn't have an individual stone; he's buried in a family plot.)

You can say "you," by the way, instead of "someone," if you're referring to me. I don't think our eras are that far divided for that courtesy to be common to both.

I have to say that I am at a complete loss as to how I have offended you. Both Sarah and Jacob are figures of historical interest; she for her role in the events of 1865, he for his role in New York political history. All of the information I have posted about them, including the fact of their marriage, is from public records. At no time have I implied, here or anywhere else, that they were buried together or misrepresented the inscriptions on Sarah's or anyone else's tombstone. (I have, however, noted, as you have yourself, that the birth year on Sarah's tombstone is incorrect, so as not to mislead others into thinking that she was a child at the time of her first two marriages.) As I find it disheartening to have aspersions cast upon my integrity when I have simply tried to contribute to our body of knowledge about the mysterious Mrs. Slater, I will not be posting further about her on this forum.

Susan.I apologize that I offended you. That was never my intent. I learned how to record this info differently, than you did. To me it is very different. I accept your posts without question - they are Right! just different. You have too much good stuff to share, please do your posts exactly as you know how. JOHN