Did Lincoln Regret Marrying Mary?

[L Verge]

I have always assumed that much of the nastiness against Mary Lincoln that has been printed has come from the Victorian male's code of wanting women to be submissive and remain solely in the realm of tending the home and rearing the children. Thus, she was judged by Herndon and other peers of her husband as being outside of that accepted role -- and, therefore, she must make Lincoln unhappy. Subsequent writers of the 20th century just rehashed the same old line.

I'm not a fan of Hillary Clinton, but she caught similar flak while First Lady, and so did Rosalyn Carter when the press found out that she was sitting in on Cabinet meetings.