Herndon on Lincoln: Letters

[Anita]

I agree Roger. Lincoln broke off his engagement on that "fatal first."

Unlike the last minute wedding plans made in Nov. 1842, it's logical Jan. 1, 1841 plans would not have been rushed. Elizabeth and Mary would have planned an event befitting the status of the Edwards family complete with announcements in the press. It would have been a topic of discussion in social circles of Springfield. No matter how cold his feet, Lincoln wouldn't have hurt Mary in a public display of ultimate betrayal, damaging his reputation in the process. If this happened there would be more evidence beyond Herndon's story. So far it hasn't turned up.