Robert Todd Lincoln --The vitals

[Eva Elisabeth]

 He once said as for enduring his wife’s tantrums: “If you knew how little harm it does me, and how much good it does her, you wouldn’t wonder that I am meek.”  (I think Crook is the source.)

And James Gourley, a Springfield neighbor, said: “Lincoln yielded to his wife — in fact, almost any other man, had he known the woman as I did, would have done the same thing.” (Just realize one could read "the woman" in a general way, too, but that would rather have been "the women", so I think he referred to Mary, not women in general. )