The Women Lincoln Loved

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They say that opposites attract. Perhaps it is because they find traits in that partner that they wished they had?

Lincoln was likely a calming influence on the gregarious Mary. He wasn't a "chick magnet," so maybe she felt she wouldn't be competing for his attentions all the time (evidently this changed later). He was a proponent of the Whig policies, as was her childhood idol, Henry Clay. She enjoyed politics, so they could have common discussions. He enjoyed discussing things with her because of her fine education and mind - probably unlike the other ladies he had been around (could we call them air-heads?)

And finally - and every married man here will probably agree - Mary very likely thought that she could change him, mold him into something higher in life. Isn't that a woman's purpose in life? Yes, sarcasm intended. I think she was a pusher and accomplished her goal of being the wife of a President.