Mr. Lee

[My Name Is Kate]

My comment was directed at the people the vile words are aimed at, not to the people using them or the people who hear them being used but are not the recipient of the insult. The way to defuse the power a word has, is to change the way you react to it when it is used against you. That is all you have control over. Most people (in my experience) want to stay just the way they are, so there isn't much you can do about changing them. Ban one vile word and they will immediately come up with another one, but they will most likely make it more insidious and use it in a more underhanded way.