Lincoln and Ann Rutledge

[LincolnToddFan]

(07-02-2014 07:59 AM)STS Lincolnite Wrote:  I understand, from reading this thread, that Ann Rutledge was still engaged to another man at the time of her alleged relationship with AL. Is it possible that in light of this and the customs of the time that there was no overt "courting" and that letters would have been kept to a minimum or even destroyed? It seems to me, especially considering the "social rules" of the time, one of the only things worse (with regards to the pre-marriage ritual) than courting another man's fiancée would be flaunting it - whether or not the man Ann was first engaged to was around to object.

Thanks,that makes perfect sense to me and it did cross my mind that that was a reason. But after the death of Lincoln, several members of AR's family were not exactly reticent about discussing and promoting the idea that the relationship was real, that it had taken place. If letters had existed between the lovers at all, wouldn't Robert Rutledge or Jean Rutledge or Nancy Rutledge have spoken of them to Herndon along with the (understandable)explanation that they had been destroyed?

As for the idea of no "overt courting", didn't her family and a few friends tell Herndon that AL had visited AR frequently, and that it was generally understood by everyone that they were an "item"?

And it still does not address the absolute cutoff of all communication with the family of the woman we are told was so pivotal in his life. That, along with the fact no one outside New Salem ever heard of this great romance, and he never discussed this allegedly key relationship ever, with anyone except for the disputed conversation with Isaac Cogdal in 1860, strikes me as very unusual.