Grant and Lincoln's invitation

[STS Lincolnite]

(10-11-2014 09:27 AM)RJNorton Wrote:  I'll mention Linda's research again (from Burlingame):

"The previous evening, Lincoln had been too sick with a headache to take a carriage ride with his wife, who wished to see the brilliant illuminations celebrating Lee’s surrender. Grant, at Lincoln’s request, had agreed to accompany her. As she and the general entered their carriage, the crowd that had gathered outside the White House shouted “Grant!” nine times. Taking offense, Mrs. Lincoln instructed the driver to let her out, but she changed her mind when the crowd also cheered for the president. This happened again and again as the carriage proceeded around town. The First Lady evidently thought it inappropriate that Grant should be cheered before her husband was."

My question is whether or not Grant, himself, might also have taken a dislike of Mary Lincoln. Could he have been offended by her initial request of the driver to let her out?

Many of the posts seem to point mainly at Julia as the reason the Grants abruptly departed on the 14th after (apparently) initially indicating they would be staying several days at the Willard Hotel. But perhaps Ulysses himself was also looking for an excuse to (quoting Herb) "get out of Dodge." (and avoid spending another evening with Mary)

Undoubtedly there were a multitude of reasons for the Grants leaving Washington on the evening of April 14th. Which one was the tipping point, final straw or just a convenient excuse is hard to say.

Related to the account of Grant and MTL's carriage ride: Burlingame gives no direct source for this. Unless it is also meant to be sourced by the Hamilton Fish diary (which I have never seen entries for) as is Mrs. Grant's statement about not wanting to go to theatre with MTL. But that sourcing doesn't seem to line up with the text in that section of Burlingame's narrative. Are there any other accounts that corroborate MTL's behavior that night? Based on other recorded events, it certainly seems like something she might do but I would like to see a contemporary account.