Lincoln & Herndon
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09-29-2014, 12:39 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-29-2014 12:42 AM by LincolnToddFan.)
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RE: Lincoln & Herndon
Eva, if the anthology/compilation of her letters is any indication, MTL was very secure in her belief that she had her husband's love.
Not even a hint of doubt in any one of the 600+ letters. So despite what he said to her to get out of the engagement with her, at some during their reconciliation and marriage he very effectively and permanently persuaded her otherwise. |
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09-29-2014, 05:27 AM
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RE: Lincoln & Herndon
Quote:Lincoln couldn't keep a hired girl because she was tyrannical to her and Lincoln perforce was compelled to look after the children. Herndon seems to be blaming Mary for the fact that Abraham was "stuck" looking after the kids. This does not seem fair to me because Abraham was gone months at a time leaving Mary as the sole parent in the home. Shouldn't he bare some responsibility when he was at home and she was out? Herndon seems to feel this would be the "hired girl's" responsibility. In those days were "hired girls" like nannies? Was it the girl's responsibility, and not Abraham's, to look after the children when Mary was out? Would that have been the normal practice? By using the word "compelled" it sounds like Herndon felt it was an injustice that Abraham would have to look after the kids when Mary went to church, etc. |
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09-29-2014, 06:47 AM
(This post was last modified: 09-29-2014 06:47 AM by Eva Elisabeth.)
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RE: Lincoln & Herndon
Also it seemingly didn't come to Herndon's mind that A. Lincoln might have enjoyed spending time with his kids (as he stated in White House years). This is especially weird as Herndon himself enjoyed spending time with his kids, taking them out into the nature, showing them plants, etc.
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09-30-2014, 01:15 AM
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RE: Lincoln & Herndon
(09-29-2014 05:27 AM)RJNorton Wrote:Quote:Lincoln couldn't keep a hired girl because she was tyrannical to her and Lincoln perforce was compelled to look after the children. Thanks Roger...I might as well have posted this myself! |
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01-05-2020, 06:40 PM
(This post was last modified: 01-05-2020 07:13 PM by Mylye2222.)
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RE: Lincoln & Herndon
(07-08-2014 07:31 PM)LincolnToddFan Wrote: [quote='Angela' pid='35516' dateline='1404841385'] Perfectly summed up. The Lincolns bounded over their childhoods marked by lack of emotional support from parental figures. Both Mary and Abraham suffered a LACK OF LOVE as children, those scars mark you for life and both were afraid of being let down. Plus they both loved the same things in life, poetry, politics... (09-29-2014 06:47 AM)Eva Elisabeth Wrote: Also it seemingly didn't come to Herndon's mind that A. Lincoln might have enjoyed spending time with his kids (as he stated in White House years). This is especially weird as Herndon himself enjoyed spending time with his kids, taking them out into the nature, showing them plants, etc. It was not in the norm back then for a man to babysit his children. Lincoln did it and enjoyed it. He was beyond his era for that. He also helped Mary sometimes with household duties. |
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01-05-2020, 09:47 PM
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RE: Lincoln & Herndon
According to Jean Baker's book about Mary, almost everyone in similar situations as Mary's had difficulty in retaining domestic help.
A labor shortage of young ladies willing to do that kind of work. So when is this "Old Enough To Know Better" supposed to kick in? |
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